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I don’t do Yoga because I am not flexible.
I don’t do Zumba because I am not coordinated. I don’t do art because I’m not creative. I don’t go on vacation because I am not confident about the way that I look in a bathing suit. I don’t go axe throwing because I might not hit the target. I don’t hike because I will be out of breath. I don’t dance because I have two left feet. I don’t write because no one will read it. I don’t go to karaoke because I can’t sing. I don’t do xyz because I think I won’t fit in, will get frustrated, won’t understand, won’t be good at it. Have you ever said or thought any of these things? I know I have and most of the time I am able to stop myself now but sometimes one of these limiting beliefs still slips through and prevents me from doing something fun or trying a new thing. And there are many reasons why we have these limiting beliefs, but I’m not going get into that now. I want to say about these things is this. 1. It’s ok to have anxiety, I struggle with this too. But now that I have learned to work with my anxiety I allow it to illuminate beliefs for me. I ask myself, is it my anxiety or something that someone else told me I should worry about? Is it my belief or is it something I heard somewhere? You are not alone in these feelings. 2. I didn’t just stand up and walk elegantly across the room when I took my first steps and neither did you. Chances are there will be lots of things in life you have to practice to get good at, but also we can enjoy things without being “good at them”. Think about how much kids love to paint and draw and build… not often good at it, they do it anyway… because it’s FUN! 3. Saying no to many of these things is actually preventing you from getting the benefits they provide. For example, Yoga increases your flexibility, Zumba helps with coordination, doing art inspires creativity, trying new things and going new places creates confidence, failing is essential to success… I think you get what I am saying. Self love is not simply bubble baths and massages, those things are nice but real self acceptance and self love is so much more then that. It is about trying new things and and loving yourself through the learning, the discomfort, potential struggle and mistakes. It is about learning about yourself, creating a relationship and truly enjoying your own company. It is about asking for what you need, setting boundaries and accepting help when it’s offered. It is about allowing yourself to get truly curious about who you are…. And loving all of the parts. Why did I write this post? I wrote it for all the humans out there who think that they are not worthy of trying something new. Who think they are not good enough to belong somewhere. Who want something more from life but don’t know how to start. I wrote this post because there are so many people that tell us that they have been lurking on our page for years, but never come in, this is your invitation… Come on in we want to meet you!!! I was talking about this with one of our new students last last week and she said you should definitely call out the lurkers and tell them to come in, I wish I would’ve come in sooner! I am not saying the solution is coming to try a class with us at Above Average Wellness but it could be.... What I am saying it is time to tap into your wants and desires and do the damn thing! Why? Because you deserve it! You are worthy and deserving just as you are! You are amazing, I love you, you matter and I hope to see you/meet you soon! - Love Trista
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What is Self-Love?
Self-love is a concept that's often talked about but not always well understood. If you’ve taken steps toward self-care, you're on the right path; if you haven't, that’s okay too. The journey to self-love starts with self-acceptance, which requires self-compassion, and self-compassion begins with embracing vulnerability. Vulnerability is Not Weakness: It’s an act of courage and strength. Being open and exposed takes bravery, especially in the face of potential criticism or rejection. Often, we fear judgment so much that we preemptively judge ourselves so that no one else can judge us. Vulnerability is Not Oversharing: True vulnerability involves sharing with the right people—those who have earned our trust. It’s about intentional sharing, not divulging everything to everyone. Vulnerability is Not TMI: There's a misconception that certain topics are off-limits. Creating safe spaces for honest conversations helps build deeper connections and combats feelings of shame and isolation. You Can’t Go Through Life Alone: Humans are wired for connection and belonging. Vulnerability fosters these connections and cultivates meaningful relationships. To foster connection, we need to be seen. Sharing our stories in safe spaces helps remove shame’s power. By listening to others and recognizing shared experiences, we find common ground and support. This is why women's circles are so powerful, they make you realize that you are not alone. Feeling worthy of connection is crucial. Those who believe in their worthiness of love and belonging are the ones who experience it. Worth isn’t earned; it’s inherent. You are already enough just as you are, you were born that way. Vulnerability in Practice Vulnerability can manifest in many ways: saying “I love you” first, taking risks without guarantees, sharing your story, asking for what you need, seeking help, and being open about your feelings. Just try something small first and move into more when it feels right, but do not numb it out, take tiny vulnerability risks, and see what is possible. We often numb our emotions to avoid vulnerability, but this numbs all feelings, including joy and gratitude. Breaking this cycle involves:
We hope to see you in a women's circle soon where we put vulnerability into practice by been seen, heard and witnessed in our whole selves. |
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