I Don't... because...

I don’t do Yoga because I am not flexible.
I don’t do Zumba because I am not coordinated.
I don’t do art because I’m not creative.
I don’t go on vacation because I am not confident about the way that I look in a bathing suit.
I don’t go axe throwing because I might not hit the target.
I don’t hike because I will be out of breath.
I don’t dance because I have two left feet.
I don’t write because no one will read it.
I don’t go to karaoke because I can’t sing.
I don’t do xyz because I think I won’t fit in, will get frustrated, won’t understand, won’t be good at it.
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Have you ever said or thought any of these things? I know I have and most of the time I am able to stop myself now but sometimes one of these limiting beliefs still slips through and prevents me from doing something fun or trying a new thing. And there are many reasons why we have these limiting beliefs, but I’m not going get into that now.
I want to say about these things is this.

1. It’s ok to have anxiety, I struggle with this too. But now that I have learned to work with my anxiety I allow it to illuminate beliefs for me. I ask myself, is it my anxiety or something that someone else told me I should worry about? Is it my belief or is it something I heard somewhere? You are not alone in these feelings.

2. I didn’t just stand up and walk elegantly across the room when I took my first steps and neither did you. Chances are there will be lots of things in life you have to practice to get good at, but also we can enjoy things without being “good at them”. Think about how much kids love to paint and draw and build… not often good at it, they do it anyway… because it’s FUN!

3. Saying no to many of these things is actually preventing you from getting the benefits they provide. For example, Yoga increases your flexibility, Zumba helps with coordination, doing art inspires creativity, trying new things and going new places creates confidence, failing is essential to success… I think you get what I am saying.

Self love is not simply bubble baths and massages, those things are nice but real self acceptance and self love is so much more then that. It is about trying new things and and loving yourself through the learning, the discomfort, potential struggle and mistakes. It is about learning about yourself, creating a relationship and truly enjoying your own company. It is about asking for what you need, setting boundaries and accepting help when it’s offered. It is about allowing yourself to get truly curious about who you are…. And loving all of the parts. 

Why did I write this post?

I wrote it for all the humans out there who think that they are not worthy of trying something new. Who think they are not good enough to belong somewhere. Who want something more from life but don’t know how to start.

I wrote this post because there are so many people that tell us that they have been lurking on our page for years, but never come in, this is your invitation… Come on in we want to meet you!!! I was talking about this with one of our new students last last week and she said you should definitely call out the lurkers and tell them to come in, I wish I would’ve come in sooner!

I am not saying the solution is coming to try a class with us at Above Average Wellness but it could be....

What I am saying it is time to tap into your wants and desires and do the damn thing! Why? Because you deserve it! You are worthy and deserving just as you are!

You are amazing, I love you, you matter and I hope to see you/meet you soon!



- Love Trista